Problems grow like water dripping from the edge of a roof or eavestrough. Just a little at a time, over many days, freezing as it goes, and soon you have a huge spear of ice threatening to either rip your gutter off the roof or break off and crash into whatever is below, causing harm and destruction.
It either hurts your house or someone else below, and all the experts agree; icicles are bad no matter how pretty they are. So why do we let them grow? It could be that we just don’t notice them until they are of spectacular proportions. At that point, it could be as dangerous to break them off as to leave them and take the chance of them doing damage where they are. We end up just leaving them, hoping the sun will come out soon and melt them, and they will drip, drip, drip away and disappear.
I tend to be a sun worshiper when it comes to problem solving, sometimes to my detriment. I guess it goes along with my “if you don’t say it, it’s not true” upbringing about some things. The corollary to that, I suppose, is “if you ignore it, it will go away”. I wait, hoping the problem will solve itself, even when I know it’s better to step forward and take care of the problem in a more straightforward way. That’s non-confrontational, non-risky, occasionally non-functional.
Lately I have been trying to take a little better care of my mental “house”. Maybe it’s time for a little perimeter check.